I was talking to a friend today and said I’d been up and down for a few weeks. I’ve had a few bad events, sad reminders, losses and life is unsettled and it’s taken a toll. I’m not exactly a puddle of tears, snot and used Kleenex and I have had a lot of fun times too but it’s been hard to bounce some days and you know what?
Life isn’t all sunny pay days, it’s rainy cloudy and cold at times too! Sometimes my bum doesn’t just look big in this, it spans the Atlantic!
It’s unrealistic to expect to not be depressed or miserable at times and it’s okay to feel like that! That’s just life. Sometimes it sucks.
If you think you are never going to stand on the yawning edge of the Abyss with a bad case of vertigo – think again my friend. It can happen to any of us. A little compassion for anyone with mental health issues goes a long way.
I hate, Hate, HATE the word ‘Depression’. It trivializes a much more enduring and clinical condition than the occasional ‘down in the dumps’ feeling EVERYONE gets. We all feel “depressed’. It isn’t the same thing at all.
I really don’t like how people with ‘depression’ are perceived as weak either. That seriously pisses me off and if anyone says “Oh X just needs to get her shit together” or any variation of a dismissive comment like that – well.. they’re going to get a short, sharp lesson on exactly why I call myself the Britchy One.
A lot of conditions are caused by a chemical deficiency. Serotonin, Dopamine, Lithium – all are putting back something that’s deficient. They’re merely rebalancing your hormones etc.
Do you think of someone with anemia or diabetes the same way as you do someone with depression?
Both those conditions are caused by a chemical deficiency too so why are they judged differently?
So to get back to the reason for my rant – After mentioning I was deliberately allowing myself time off Facebook because I just needed a break from the fake ness of everyone’s ‘wonderful lives’… I was told “that’s not like you, you’re better than that”
I literally counted to ten and asked very calmly what that meant.(that should always be seen as a HUGE warning sign incidentally!!)
I was told I’m a strong person and I’m not weak enough to give in…
That wasn’t destined to end well.
I had a choice, I could go nuclear or I could educate Britchy style.
I’m getting seriously worried I might be growing up because I didn’t choose the first door!
I said You know I have potassium and calcium deficiency right? Well when I’m getting low blood levels, I get severe locking cramps in my hands and feet and can’t use them. When people are “depressed” (I did use the old hands to quote that too!) – they are deficient in brainium chemical levels so their noggin locks up and plays merry hell with the bit of the brain that controls emotions etc. Its no different to any other deficiency.
She laughed at my technical explanation and said she’d never thought of it like that. I just hope she learns something from it.
“Depression” is an unfair word.
Chemical Warfare Hostage is what I see it as and anyone TRYING to function with mental chemical bombs and shortages raining down on them constantly gets my admiration. It’s long past time for the stigma to go away. If we aren’t labeling diabetics, anemics and anyone else with an illness caused by a deficiency as “weak” let’s not judge mental health issues either.
Today’s picture is of cake and George because while cake and kitty’s might not cure depression they always make you feel better!