Inside every one of us there’s a light that shines sparkles and fizzes.
It doesn’t matter how old you are, your weight, colour, race or IQ. We all have the ability to make someone else’s day magical.
I met a man today in the car park at Walmart. He was with a group of like minded souls and he wandered over to me to say hi as I was packing stuff into my car.
He smiled at me so I smiled back and he said “You’re pretty. My mamma told me to always be polite to ladies and you’re a pretty lady” I was charmed. I told him his mama could be very proud of him as he was a perfect gentleman and he was just beaming from ear to ear and kinda dancing from one foot to the other.
He was obviously thoroughly enjoying our conversation but I think he would have been hard pushed to be as delighted as I was! He was absolutely beaming, clasping his hands and unclasping then and just so proud of himself for being gentlemanly! He kept repeating himself so I was agreeing how nice it was to have good manners as I loaded the car.
As I was finished I told him it was lovely chatting and I hoped he had a super day.
In the meantime another woman had returned to her car with her shopping so he said hello to her. I think he was flushed with success from our conversation bless him! She turned on him like a ferret with distemper and said “Eff off Retard”
He was crushed. His little face dropped and honestly, I was absolutely incandescent with rage. I said extremely pointedly. “We’ve just been talking. My friend was showing me what beautiful manners he has” and I smiled at him. He smiled back as one of the carers came over to get him. I told him to enjoy his shopping and waved goodbye.
I turned back to rent-a-gob and asked, in a very interrogatory manner if she had kids. She said yes defiantly so I just looked at her and said “I hope no one ever treats your children as abusively as you just treated that other mothers son”
Her face dropped. She didn’t know how to reply and I didn’t give her a chance to. I got in my mean machine and buggered off. Did I behave in an exemplary way? Absolutely not. I wanted to humiliate her and I’m not very proud that I probably did.
I hope my little fella remembers the good of today and not the bad of it. It only takes a minute to be nice. I appreciate she could have been scared of a strange man talking to her but he was obviously with a group from a care home. He was just talking to me and there were a lot of people about. If she’d ignored him – I’d have understood that.. but not demeaning him.
I feel bad now because I wasn’t nice to her, retaliation isn’t the answer. I’ll try harder next time to handle things differently because it really doesn’t hurt to be nice – and you make more of an impression being kind that mean.
Help make people’s sparkle brighter, don’t douse it with gloom.