I have a question.
It’s always struck me as the biggest ripoff going. You sit and blather on to someone while looking for answers yourself and you pay them for doing absolutely nothing constructive! I think newspaper agony aunts have more value. I truly see this as a farce but I know others have differing opinions. I am not knocking anyone for trying it – it’s what works for you… But I just don’t get it. If I have a problem I won’t work on, how can counselling fix it?
This has come up as someone I know has some seriously self destructive shit going on that they’ve been indulging in for years. Nothing has changed but they are now *in counselling* so they seem to think it’s okay to keep shitting on everyone else repeatedly and not actually changing any of their behaviour. I think counselling is providing a lovely excuse for them to do exactly what they want and expect everyone else to put up with the same old stuff and be understanding.
I would love to hear other opinions because I would actually like to understand if I’m wrong. This person is an alcoholic. They are destroying their family emotionally and financially and the *counsellor* is saying it’s everyone else’s problem not theirs!
I think a “good” counselor is as rare as rocking horse poop. Counsellors don’t seem to do anything constructive at all and this bullshit about having to find the right one just proves how many worthless ones there are. It seems to be a totally unregulated profession.
In the experience I’ve had – which is only third party admittedly but of the counselors that I’ve seen, it seems like they gravitated towards that job because they thrive on drama and fixing problems would actually hurt their income. Honestly, I think a lot of them are just enablers to get the person to keep the $$$ coming in.
What’s your opinion of counselling?